I had submitted a question to Brian at Daily Buddhism about how to address hatred spewed at trans individuals. Although outside of Brian’s experience I believe he addressed it well as did the many respondents. The more I think about it, the more I believe that being open about myself and my path lessens the possibility of directed hate. Will it get rid of all hatred? No. That exists as long as people see things they don’t understand, cannot explain and don’t want to learn about (closed mind). But perhaps it will lessen for some. We live in times where people actually are far more open. I’m thankful to those that came before and suffered much in their path. And I’m hopeful that those that come after will be able to find their way — whatever path it may be — with little suffering and fear.
One of the habits I do regularly is constantly evaluate how life “things” (e.g., finances, attitude, spirituality, important life decisions, etc.) are doing and if I need to change a habit or direction. I’ve been reading, on my iTouch, a book called “America’s Cheapest Family”. Written by the parents of 5 kids it details how a family has survived on an average of $35,000 a year, owned two homes, no credit cards and no debt.
I do think that K and I could do this but we will need to get into some good habits now so we can pass those on to the kids. It’s not a question of paying debt — I do this quite well — but rather eliminating it once and for all. I will pay off a small credit card debt next month and then work at aggressively tackling others over the next few months. I know I won’t be debt free this year but putting moritorium on spending. No more cigar purchases until thehumidors are completely empty; no more book purchases; minimal clothing purchases; and very limited restaurant puchases. I want to cook more meals that we can stretch out for a few days, turn off the tv in favour of walks and use Hulu as our method of tv show watching if we must watch tv.
I know I had talked of this before but slacked on doing it. A few years ago I had managed to wipe out half of my debt. I need to return to that again. I will have one major expense this year — my aunt’s wedding — and may have surgery costs but it may only be those expenses. I may avoid going somewhere over the holidays and limit my holiday gift stuff to smaller, more useful items.
I also want to get back in my Buddhist studying that I had done earlier last year. I think that will help me focus more on work and perhaps put me in line for a promotion next year. I need to address this as the stress of finances is having an emotional and, I suspect, health impact on me. Addressing one area successfully can help address others.
I’m hopeful I will stick to my plan… Actually, I’m not hopeful but rather I know I will. I mean if a family of seven can survive on a salary like they did there is no reason why I cannot do the same to move forward achieve my dreams. I just have to avoid being blinded by the marketing shock and awe that I face daily. Every minute I will have to ask: do I really need that or is it just some luxery that someone else thinks I need?