Ok. I’ll admit this upfront. I know I’m weird for not being a big fan of Jim Carrey but I’m not. I like his more serious, darker work like “The Number 23“. Now I agreed to watch “Yes Man” because it’s one of K’s recent favourite movies. While predictable at some points, it is a simple sweet movie. What I found most profound was the message tied in the movie itself. Basically, it’s the premise that if we remain open to possibilities we live life more. And this is a very true statement. It seemed a rather ironic thought after yesterday’s post about having our social relationships constructed only online. Are we saying yes to relationships because of online or no to real time life?
But as I thought about it more, and looked beyond that post, it dawned on me that I had become a quasi-“yes man” by virtue of moving forward in life by saying “yes” to things: being more open about myself, allowing myself to move forward in transition, taking that first scary step when joining the support group, visiting a sangha, moving to the US, finding a new love, etc. For a long time I stayed with the safe, never really taking chances. It was when I began to do long distance solo bicycle touring that I realized that saying “yes” to doing those things meant a whole world was open. Heck, even saying “yes” to being frugal has had it’s benefits. For once, I have enough money in my bank accounts to pay for day-to-day stuff. Sure, not as much as I’d like and I still have credit cards to pay off but better than where I was before. Things like saying “yes” to a walk rather than sitting at home watching TV, reading rather than aimlessly wandering the internet, making food at home rather than going out, etc. Life seems so much more alive and one doesn’t need to spend a lot (it was a question I asked K in that it seemed like Carrey’s character did things that would, ultimately, break someone financially).
What do you say “yes” to?