So now I have even more of a reason to celebrate on the 31st. Facebook has always been one of those places that grassroots events take off (Twitter, I think, will also be the other at this point). But it was on Facebook that I ran across the group to promote International Transgender Day of Visibility. I think it’s a great idea. We have been remembering those who have passed before us but now it’s time to stand up as we are, alive and whole, today. One of the challenges is that many trans individuals go stealth once they full pass in the gender they were meant to be. And many choose not to be identified as trans. This is fine but for many being trans is a very visible thing. We transition with the whole world watching us, waiting to see what new thing has physical, emotional or otherwise has changed.
And while transitioning is, for the most part, a selfish thing it is also a societal thing. Our belief that gender is what we’re born with physically isn’t accurate. Like many things in life there are factors that make up all of this: brain chemistry, societal impact, parental influence or lack thereof, friend relationships, etc. There is nothing to blame either; it is what it is (as the saying goes). Perhaps this will lead to a full separation from the LGB. LGB (B is only supported if it’s women; men, not so much) is widely becoming more and more accepted. Case in point: New Hampshire has recently approved of a bill to go to Senate for same-sex unions but at the same time, denied equality rights for transgender individuals (the “Washroom Bill”).
I see more and more stories about transgender/transsexual politics and it is heartening, even if they are not positive. At the least, people are being made aware more and more as to who we are. We’re not freaks or weirdos or <insert epithet here>; we’re average citizens who want the right to exist as we are. In world where so many pressure everyone to be the same (e.g., you must be <insert religion>; you must <insert thought>; you must support <insert political regime>), we stand out at challenging a lot of that. We aren’t the “musts”; we are “what we should be”.
We should be supportive of each other.
We should be respectful of each other’s choices/needs/wants.
We should recognize the vast wonderful differences that each of us has.
We should appreciate the various paths and experiences that make us all so unique.
And if you’ve ever wondered what a trans person looks like.. here it is: