Well, first, I’m glad the week is over. I was gonna go to downtown Charleston tonight but am feeling a bit tired so figured I’ll stay at the hotel and relax some. I can do some lab work from the hotel. Today ended on a good note. First, my reviews came back ok, although one student seemed to have issue with me. All students except for one gave me a 5/5 while this one gave 3/5. This is the same student that refused to give me his name to sign-in for the course and spent the whole course just reading the material, ignoring everything I said. Ah well. Can’t please ’em all.
I did finally hear from HR as to how we’re going to plan to make my transition announcement. Basically, they want me to lead with what I feel most comfortable with. Apparently, I wasn’t the first to transition at the company and this leads me to be hopeful that things will be ok. I think I will run everything by them, however, to ensure that I’m not stepping over boundaries with responses to things. While I am very open about my transition, I do not want to set a precendent that will make it difficult for the person(s) after me who transition. They may not be as open as me and may not want to have that lingering over them. One thing that also was good was that the company has a contract with an organization that comes in and speaks to employees about the transition as well as answers any questions they may have.
So while I’m in the lead about some things, I don’t have to do it all — which is good. I’m going to see during the week of Thanksgiving about the name change stuff and how long that will take. If it takes as long as I think it might — 6 to 8 weeks — I begin that process then. Once the new year rolls around, I’ll get the passport and other necessary documents taken care of. I have to admit that this seems to be progressing faster than I expected it would have. I really didn’t expect the results to be so soon, both in terms of the hormones nor in terms of other items. That all said, I’m very happy with where my life is going.
I talked to both aunts tonight about my grandmother, who had triple-bypass surgery today. She’s doing well and should be home in a couple of weeks. Each of them is going to visit and help her out for a bit. She has a lot of friends who’ll also help her. This is good. It’s probably good I’m not seeing her this year as I know she’s not keen on my transition. One of my aunt’s mentioned that she doesn’t want me to see my sister in full beard and transitioned. I can actually understand that. My sister has been through a lot, being the only witness to my mom’s murder and suffering from a variety of diseases including schizophrenia. And unfortunately, it appears she’s getting worse on her OCD. For her, it’s hard enough to accept daily changes. My change would be too great. It actually doesn’t bother me since I don’t see her that often and don’t have a huge tie with her.
Sometimes we have to forgo certain things in respect of others. For her, I’ll send gifts using my birth name. I know she can’t understand what a transition is because of her mental capacity and the conditions that present a world that is far more challenging than what she can accept. For each of us, we have happiness in the world that we’re in.
While it may be necessary at times to be aggressive and demand the world sees me as I see myself, there are times when one shouldn’t force it. It’s all a matter, in my opinion, about respect. I want people to respect me as the transguy/transman I am. In order to achieve that, I need to respect others when they ask for it. It’s a good thing.