People really don’t get it, do they? I read about Ruby’s body found in the Sacramento River yesterday and I was shocked by the following quote (it seems to be newsfeed article):
The man has been identified as Fernando Molina, 22. Investigators have learned Molina was in the process of transitioning from a man to a woman. He was known as “Ruby” to family and friends and frequented the Watt Avenue and Auburn Boulevard corridors as well as downtown Sacramento.
**SHE**, you dumb fucks! It was a woman. And using a term like “frequents” make it sound dirty. She may have been a sex worker but that doesn’t make her any less of a person. Treat her with respect as the human being she was. It’s horrible that she ended up in the river. And I won’t be surprised if people forget as the rest of society will treat her as less than a person because she was in the process of transitioning. As time goes on, I’m finding I’m getting more and more angry when I read stuff like this. I’m starting to see more and more why it’s so critical that society sees us in the terms and on the terms we want to be seen.
And I can see why it’s important for many to be stealth. But I wonder if so many weren’t stealth and society were forced to face the fact that there are many of us around, if things would be different. Would Ruby still be here rather than treated as less-than something? Hopefully the police will find the person who did this and citizens will be outraged. I doubt it but one can hope.
Ruby Molina, you won’t be forgotten. And you will be remember for the beautiful woman you are.
I think we need to recognize the beautiful women and men before these tragedies happen, not after.