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Rant du jour: Don’t call me “honey” and other things making me go “grrr”

Posted on September 29, 2008 by Linus Posted in Life .

Seriously. Even if I wasn’t a transgendered guy, why would someone refer to me as “honey”? It happened this morning while at the post office. I was putting together an envelope to send back a clarification note to Revenue Canada (I claim I’m owed $3,500 and they say I owe $4,200 — a bit of a difference of opinion, particularly in regards to the date of departure from Canada: they think it’s April 07 when it really was Dec 2007). Anyways, I wasn’t too impressed with the post office opening 15 minutes late — a consistent habit of theirs I should have remembered — but I was even less impressed when I got called “honey” by the male representative behind the glass. I’m sure he was trying to be polite but “honey” to me feels deragatory or something. Perhaps I was still overly annoyed at the fact that they were evidentally late (their receipt machine even matched up time with my cell phone so I know they were late).

I dunno. I suspect there is more of a desire to maintain traditional roles here in the US than elsewhere. I have been finding more and more that this nation, for all it’s claims for being forward thinking and open-minded, has been less so in my experience. The factor that likely leads the way is how the nation developed from a basis of Puritan values to the modern day Christian evangelical views that we see today. The percentage of those that are truly open-minded seems small. Smaller still, in my humble opinion, are those that I would say are “true Christians”: those are, to me, people who respect the path that God has given to others.

Oh.. and as I write this, my only personal phone seems to be the central magnet for cold-calling computer run telemarketers. The so-called “Do Not Call List” is crap. I’ve put my phone number on it now for 3 months and still get these things. What’s the freakin’ point? And why isn’t their marketing team being a little more intelligent about this stuff? I’m getting calls about my “car warranty” expiring.

DUMB ASS, I do not drive, do not have a license and certainly don’t have a car.

GO AWAY.

Go far away, please.

Sigh.

Is it Tuesday yet?

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  1. TarotByArwen says
    September 29, 2008 at 2:58 pm

    But honey? Can I still call you honey?

    Seriously though, for me it depends on their accent. I know that’s weird, but it’s so common down here in the South that I don’t think a thing of it. Of course with me, they have to beat me to the “honey/sugar/darling” punch. HA

  2. Linus says
    September 30, 2008 at 10:46 am

    @TarotByArwen: You know, if it’s someone who knows me well then I’m ok with it. But a complete stranger?! No. Not acceptable. That’d be like calling you “baby” or “sweet cheeks” or something else that indicates closer affection. Maybe I was overly sensitive yesterday. 😛

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