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Twitter Updates for 2008-10-31

Posted on October 31, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .
  • Good morning twitterland.. I only have 3 more modules to teach today and should be done by 1ish. YAY! 🙂 #
  • @katebornstein agreed.. especially if you take business/first class. the Amtrak train to Canada, however, is downright scary! #
  • Welp. Looks like should be done by 2pm so will go to hotel first before going to Tinderbox and dinner tonight #
  • YAY! weekend now here & conversation with HR about transition was positive. Things looking good to move forward 🙂 #

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Gratitude for the day

Posted on October 31, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .

Have to get going in a few but wanted to post my gratitude for the day. I am very thankful for..

— having a job I love and can keep

— having the support and love of a beautiful woman

— having the support and love of my family

— being able to move my transition forward at a pace I want

— having the ability to go to a support group to go to for more support and help

— my furrkids and the joy, love and laughter they bring into life.

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Twitter Updates for 2008-10-30

Posted on October 30, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .
  • Another day and a half of teaching before I get a weekend. Can’t wait to get home. #
  • @TarotByArwen good luck will keep mah fingers and toes crossed for you #

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Can’t wait to get home..

Posted on October 30, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .

Don’t get me wrong. Charleston, SC is an amazing city. Very friendly with people who really want to help. But I really miss K. I miss our evening cuddles, discussions and laughs. I also miss the furrkids. And I miss belonging somewhere. It’s the one thing I like about the GIP group. Outside of K, it’s the only other place where I can be myself and no one questions my path or how I go along that path. I’ve spent my life trying to find a community that accepts me as I am.

And this is actually a lot harder than it seems. Many communities have predefined definitions of what their members might look like, be like and what their experiences are. And as much as some members want to be open, the majority often seem to balk at that which is different. What’s most disturbing about this is that it often appears in a group that is already disenfranchised elsewhere. Trans individuals are often pushed to the outside by the very groups that are often excluded from the rest of society.

It’s funny in some ways. I had expected for mainstream society to reject me but not the society or group that apparently is supposed to be open and supportive of me. I’ve been pondering this whole idea more and more as I’ve gone further into my transition. One of the things that I think is happening, from my point of view, is that I’m starting to be viewed as “straight” because I’m viewed as a male (and thus, a man) and interested in a woman, who many don’t necessarily view as queer. My time in the lesbian community has been short and my own background was that of a heteronormative life. So because I don’t have the same background as others, I’m viewed always as an outsider and believed to not be able to understand. Perhaps true but each experience that we all have brings so much more to the table.

Certainly some trans individuals don’t feel that they belong in the LGB community because they view their whole identity as straight and heteronormative and what they are addressing is a birth defect. But that doesn’t include all trans individuals. Much like the rainbow that represents the LGB community, it also represents the trans community. We have queers, gays, lesbians and even straight people. Maybe we need to stop looking to the LGB groups to represent us and become our own representation. The reality is that it’s human nature to want to belong to some form of community. We do this by volunteering, being part of a spiritual group, joining a political party and other community-like options. For some, the internet even acts as a potential place to find community. But even online we find exclusions and separation. Perhaps, for me, part of the problem is wanting too much to feel like there is somewhere where I belong beyond my home.

At least, I’ll be home soon. And next week I’ll hang with the guys from the GIP. I’ll be able to report, at least, more instances of passing. I got called very definitely “sir” today when I left the site I was teaching at. I suspect that some of the “Ma’ams” I get of late are more of a confirmation for others as to how they want to view me than how they do view me. More and more I’m confusing others as to where I fit. The next thing that I need to do will probably be the thing I need to finally have others see me as I’ve always seen myself. I’ve been doing some self portraits of myself of late and can’t help but see the transguy/man that’s there.

And you know, regardless of what anyone else thinks I like what I see and who I see.

It’s all a good thing.

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Twitter Updates for 2008-10-29

Posted on October 29, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .
  • Enjoying a CAO CX2 enough to work on a review of it. 🙂 #
  • On way to work in hopes of arriving on time #
  • US elections getting kinda worrisome over some religious groups beliefs that the will end if Obama is elected #

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Twitter Updates for 2008-10-28

Posted on October 28, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .
  • Finally unpacked, snacked having cigar and eyeing my latest grabs from Tinderbox.. may do the hockey game and other stuff on Friday #
  • Awake and trying to get to site, which has no internet #
  • Walked 3 miles while lecturing today, including a mile as cardio #
  • @problogger you need twitters anonymous?? Perhaps there’s an onlime chat support group 😀 #

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Do YOU believe??

Posted on October 28, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .

It’s that time of the year again. Tonight, ABC is showing It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown. If we were to dissect it, it highlights the challenge between those who truly believe in things and those that don’t. My namesake, Linus Van Pelt, always has this absolute, naive belief in people and their good nature. I have to agree with him on the idea that people are, somewhere under their stress and other issues, truly good at their core. This week I’m in Charleston, SC and I’m being overwhelmed by the genuinely kindness of the people here. I do truly believe that people care about others and want to help, and it’s nice to see people actually doing it.

Anyways, in the name of belief, do YOU believe?

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Twitter Updates for 2008-10-27

Posted on October 27, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .
  • @waltw I’d take half, smoke those and keep the rest. #
  • Ya know.. I’m seriously contemplating getting someone to do a cartoonish logo for CigarNewbie.com .. #
  • Good night in Twitterland 😛 see ya in about 4-5 hours (damn early flights!) #
  • *yawns* morning twitterland.. will be up and away in a couple of hours.. zzzzzzzzz #
  • Jfk term 7 is worst for ticketing and security lines 🙁 #
  • Lovely. One line for all airlines leaving #
  • Have arrived at dulles. Have less than 50 min to deplane & find connect to charleston, sc #
  • Wonder if I should be concerned about break a bit of the plane?!?? #
  • @jcruz happy birthday! May your humidor always be stocked with favs and your lighter never die #
  • Have arrived in charleston,sc. Looks like ottawa and seems more rural than urban. I’m screwed me thinks #
  • Yay united for losing my luggage >:( #
  • Stingrays play Fla here on fri. Wonder if I should go? #
  • Enjoying a cigar at the tinderbox & pretending lost luggage aint a big issue #
  • @Doc_StogieFresh yer not the only one. We’ve had painters in to do balcony and other stuff for landlord #
  • Whee! Luggage found.. Now I can relax. If I could only get internet for the laptop #

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Twitter Updates for 2008-10-26

Posted on October 26, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .
  • @jessicaknows tarotbyarwen said you were cool to follow.. so I’m following 🙂 #
  • @chicblvd tarotbyarwen said you’re cool to follow.. so I’m following ya.. 🙂 #
  • @TarotByArwen done and done 🙂 Hope ya win! 🙂 #
  • Yay! I finished my security article (3000 words) — it might work out to be 3 separate articles at that length! (which means more $$ for me) #
  • Good morning twitterland! yay! Twitter grade has improved to a whopping 36! whee! #

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On the road again..

Posted on October 26, 2008 by Linus Posted in Uncategorized .

Oh, I’m not looking to be on the road again…

Now that you have that stuck in your head, I’m heading out to Charleston, SC. My flight leaves at 6am. I had no choice on this one because I realized early this morning that I had stupidly booked for a Tuesday departure. This is a problem since the class starts at 9am on Tuesday. Ah well. I’ll be there early and perhaps the hotel can hold on to my luggage while I wander a bit around the city. That’d be nice. I’ll be 5 min from the airport and about 10 minutes from the site I’m teaching at. I think I’m about 20-30 minutes from downtown. I’m thinking of hiring Charleston Green Taxi for the week. It’d certainly make life easier for me and I wouldn’t have to worry about finding a cab that could take a credit card.

One of the things that’s nice is that the hotel is a suite hotel. That means microwave and fridge. I’ve also gotten a smoking room so I can enjoy a stogie at the end of the evening if I wanted to. The downside is that the only place nearby to get groceries is a Wal-Mart (boo! hiss!). Charleston doesn’t seem to well known for vegan fare so I’m kinda out of luck on that. It’s going to be a busy 4 weeks of teaching in a row (a week in Charleston, then online teach and then two in a row at our Wall Street site) but at least it’ll keep me busy. And since I know I walk about 3 miles each day I teach, I should do well as far as exercise is concerned so yay me! When I get back on the weekend, I’ll have to book mine and K’s tickets to Halifax for the holidays. I had almost forgotten abou the voucher (which I’ll use on K’s ticket) and I’m only shy about 2,000 points (about $50) to cover the full cost of my ticket. So this will still be a nice thing to do at little cost. Then I’ll only have to worry about gifts.

Whee.

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