A classic. ‘Nuff said.
I always loved Lucy. But this has to be one of her best episodes (the Chocolate Factory one is the other). I crack up at this every time I see it. And since I’m trying to stay healthy perhaps I should invest in a bottle of Vita-Meata-Vegamin (not quite vegan last time I looked however).
This past week turned out to be far better than expected. As some of you have read, this was the first week that colleagues really saw me since before my transition began. I was very apprehensive after reading about so many who have been mocked, ridiculed, etc. when they transitioned on the job. I got the complete opposite. To the point of near tears. I am blessed for working in a company that is supportive of the person I am and am becoming. I wasn’t quite comfortable using the washroom with colleagues but have done more of that when out in public or going to airports. I get “sir’d” constantly now and even changed a few of my “points” (e.g., hotel, airline, etc.) to “Mr.” and get called that as well. Almost every night, I met up with about 4-12 of my colleagues in one room or another. We had a few drinks (it’d kill the swine flu, I tells ya); a few cigars; and a lot of war stories. I got asked a few questions, shown a lot of support and good laughter. I guess it was a form of bonding with my colleagues (many who want to do co-teaches with me, especially in Vegas — apparently they’d lied; it doesn’t stay in Vegas — LOL).
I know there are a few who probably weren’t sure of what had happened to me and aren’t too sure how to ask (they were being polite or PC, not sure which). And for those folks it may be necessary to do an email to colleagues. I think that this week I’ll be working on that email and send it out (assuming HR is ok with it). I’ll probably put a huge line at the bottom that says something along the lines that I’m ok with pretty much any question being asked to me directly but to remember that I’m not like other trans individuals and not to assume that others will answer those questions.
It was weird today. For some reason I wish I could call my mom and tell her, excitedly, about all my successes. But then I remembered I can’t. Many choices in life I do not regret .. except one: my last words to my mom two years prior to her death. It doesn’t change the fact that she was killed unnecessarily nor does it change the history we had (both good and bad). But as I travel further down my Buddhist path, I’m becoming more aware of the power of karma (karma is neither good nor bad, it just is the effect of actions) and the importance of lessening the suffering, no matter how small, on ourselves and others.
Anyways, I do believe that I am proof of a few things. It is possible to transition on the job with little or few objections by employer, employees and customers. I am also proof, I suspect, of white privilege and specifically, male white privilege. I work in a male dominanted industry and one that is highly white dominanted (for all the wrong reasons, IMO). It is stuff like that which frustrates me since I cannot figure out how to change things (at least not just yet). It will be interesting to see if my salary changes at the next performance review (it should — not based on gender but rather all the things I’m doing and will be doing over the next 6 months).
April’s pool was about how much discrimination is out there in regards to trans individuals, specifically directly felt. It was disheartening that when I released the poll 3-4 different trans-specific examples of discrimination and hatred had occurred. On the plus, Angie Zapata’s killer got sentence with a hate crime sentence. The results were that 70% of people had experienced direct or indirect discrimination (26 respondents). It’s rather disheartening that this still goes on. This week I introduced K to All in the Family and the vitriol of Archie Bunker (interestingly enough Carol O’Connor was extremely liberal compared to the Meathead). I noticed that the show could have easily been done during the Bush Jr. era with the same effect (but only if you could find someone of O’Connor’s caliber) only changing some of the targets of the hatred of Archie. I find it disappointing that society is still so nasty to others. If we could only do what Buddha puts forth (cause no suffering and help to end it) and what Jesus teaches (love thy brother as you would love yourself — Matt 19:17-19). Perhaps if we could take a cue from our four-legged furrkids, who seem to have endless love for us without question, then I’d never have to ask those questions.
So, given light to Bobcat’s situation and general thought of furrkids, I put forth as to what is your favourite kind of furrkid that you have or would like to have. Me, personally, if we had a house we’d have cats, dogs and a variety of other animals.
K sent this to me. Totally cracked me up.
So, I ran into this show as a link on a forum and thought it may be worthwhile to post. Although I dislike the use of the word “trannies”, I do like that the show is both vegan and involves trans folks. Enjoy and subscribe!
Hello?? This thing on??
Ok. When I was a professor at a college in Toronto, I’d ask students to research about a computer security topic. The idea was that they would write about something in the manner of presenting information to their manager or CIO (or equivalent). I wasn’t looking for perfect english but professionalism. One year I got a piece that was ENTIRELY written in instant messaging (IMing or texting) “language”. “To” was “2”; “and” was “n”; “are” was “r”; and so on. Now, I have no issue with some confusion (e.g., than versus then — the eyes can fool a person but “than” indicates a comparison of something while “then” indicates a continuation of something) but I have low tolerance for poor grammar and english skills in environments other than SMS for phone messages or things like Twitter (which have limitations on characters). I’ll also comment that I can understand where english is a second language to having difficulties in grammar skills.
But when english is your mother tongue and you are given time, space and situation to come across with full sentences and thoughts why do some people resort to space saving techniques?? I don’t understand it. I suppose it’s a cultural thing and an age thing (yes, I admit that I’m getting old). But I think if you are going to write out long responses to people on forums, in emails or elsewhere take the time to do proper grammar. It shows, to me, a sign of respect for the reader as well as towards one’s self. And if you’re not sure about how to use it, start with Lynne Truss‘ book Eats, Shoots and Leaves. The book title comes from a definition of a panda given in a wildlife book: “Panda. Large black-and-white bear-like mammal, native to China. Eats, shoots and leaves.” This suggests that the panda eats its food, shoots something and then leaves the restaurant.
Maybe it’s just me. Anyways, that’s my peeve of the day. If you’re not sure what it looks like, see below. I took the first paragraph of this post and “translated” it. Having a sentence or two isn’t bad but having a whole paper, post or other longer piece is just head spinning.
Ok. wen I wz a prof @ a colleG n Toronto, I’d ask studnts 2 rsrch bout a comp security topic. d idea wz dat theyd wrt bout somit n d manner of presenting info 2 their boss or CIO (or equivalent). I wznt lkn4 perfect en bt professionalism. 1 yr I got a pce dat wz Ntirely ritN n IM (IMing or texting) “language”. “To” wz “2”; “and” wz “n”; “are” wz “r”; n so on.Now, Ive no issue W sum confusion (e.g., thN vs thN — d Iyz cn f%l a pRsN bt “than” indicates a comparison of somit yl “then” indicates a continuation of something) bt Ive lo tolerance 4 poor gramA n en skilz n environments oder thN SMS 4 ph msgs or fings lk Twitter (which av limitations on characters). IL also commnt dat I cn undRst& whr en S tick lang 2 havN dificultys n gramA skilz.
A friend had found the first video, which is a cute vid of cats talking. It’s unusual to see cats talk to each other like this since they usually only “talk” to humans. And then I found the translation.
It’s interesting, now that I think about it, how Palin was viewed as a MILF during the election when really it should have been Michelle. This picture, a fine example of work by Annie Liebowitz, shows us a First Lady that is poised, fashionable and fierce. The simplest word I know: hot. Damn hot.
Ok. Two words.